In my opinion, mean girls in adult life are one of two things: too spoiled and stuck up to care or know better… or just insecure. Fortunately, the insecurity issue can be fixed… and with the help of Isaya Marin from Isaya’s Corner, it can be done in 10 simple steps. She has great reasons for posting this that include working with young kids, so please see her original post here. In the meantime – here are some tips on how to build self confidence:

1. Learn! The more you know the better you’ll feel. So read a book, sign up for new classes. Challenge yourself to learn something new every day.
2. Exercise. The psychological effects of exercising makes us feel great, and let’s admit it, if you feel like you look better or are stronger, you’ll be gaining self-confidence in the process.
3. Remove negativity. Being negative or being surrounded by negativity will make you feel bad about yourself and bring more negativity into your life. Break the habit, Remember we attract what we think and do!
4. Do one thing every day that makes you smile.
5. Keep track of everything you’ve accomplished instead of the moments or tasks you’ve failed and focus on them. Write them down and read them every night or everytime you’re feeling down.
6. Stop letting others decide for you. You probably don’t even realize it but you’re doing so by acting how you think others want you to act. Be yourself at all times! You will lose people in the process (that don’t even matter, trust me!) but you’ll attract those you really need in your life.
7. Trust your instincts – they are always right. If you feel like something isn’t right then you are most probably right.
8. Ask for help. We all need help and admitting it is one of the biggest signs of self confidence. So when there’s something you can’t do by yourself, or if there’s something you need to talk about, ask someone for help.
9. Work on developing the skills you need to win at the things that matter to you.
10. Don’t compare yourself to others. We are all different and that’s the best part of life. Where’s the fun when everyone’s the same?