I wanted to read a book that would help me relax a little bit better when I was tending to work I do for my businesses.
Not Nice was the one that stood out to me as a book that could help me just deliver for clients and not stress out about over-delivering when I was off the clock.
This book was helpful… a bit. I didn’t read anything new or get any Earth-shattering information. However, if you struggle with social anxiety or social confidence, you’ll enjoy this bestseller.
However, it served as a good reminder to review some things again with great points, but honestly, I stopped about 3/4 of the way through because I was just ready to be done with it.
That’s how I feel about a lot of self-help and business books at this point – unless they are super niched and tactical, they are all too similar to keep my interest.
So, you can expect more fun, entertaining fiction books to be reviewed.
With that said, I did like the book and it’s a great pick for the “people pleasers” of the world. To give you an idea of what’s to come, the full title of the book is Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty… And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself.
Not Nice by Dr. Aziz Gazipura Book Summary and Review
Not Nice Book Summary
Are you too nice?
If you find it hard to be assertive, directly ask for what you want, or say “no” to others, then you just might be suffering from too much niceness.
In this controversial book, world-renowned confidence expert and clinical psychologist, Dr. Aziz Gazipura, takes an incisive look at the concept of nice.
Through his typical style, Dr. Aziz uses engaging stories, humor, and disarming vulnerability to cut through the nice conditioning and liberate the boldest, expressive, authentic version of you.
In this great life, you’ll read good points that will help you in many areas of life. You’ll stop being Mr. Nice guy and start living the art of extraordinary confidence.
You’ll discover how to:
- Easily say “no” when you want to and need to.
- Confidently and effectively ask for what you want.
- Speak up more freely in all your relationships.
- Eliminate feelings of guilt, anxiety, and worry about what others will think.
My Book Review for Not Nice
Not Nice had some sections that were great for me and others that weren’t.
For example, I’ve never had a problem speaking my mind. (In fact, I might have the opposite problem where I need to shut my mouth more.) However, I have had a problem asking for help for a very long time.
I have also given more than I take and have said “yes” to things I really wanted to say “no” to just to appease another person and be helpful.
If you’re in this boat, you’ll like this book and all the stories the author tells in it – not just his own, but other people that he works with. With practical advice and useful information, your lack of confidence will be turned around your whole world will change because you’ll be living as your authentic self.
It made me remember having a boyfriend in high school for a short period… who I never really liked. But because he was really nice and liked me, I didn’t want to hurt his feelings by breaking up with him. (Yeah… that’s pretty bad.)
This book addresses things like that (though sometimes not as extreme) and is a great read for people who always seem to put others first.
My Not Nice Book Recommendation
If you struggle with telling people no (I do sometimes), speaking your mind (I’ve never had this problem), or asking for things (this is a biggie for me), then you will like this book.
I like the author’s use of storytelling to make points because it makes it very relatable.
Bottom line: If you’re a people pleaser, you need to read it.
My Not Nice Rating
I give Not Nice 3 out of 5 stars.
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